A Loved One’s Crappy Words Got You Down? Forget Them!
Hi amigos, I have a simple question for you: Don’t you just love it when your Sundays are ruined by someone’s hurtful comments and they happen to be related to you?!?
Yea, me neither.
Our loved ones, especially the ones who don’t think before saying hurtful words, don’t know how to change this habit. They might never change their ways. They’re trapped in a state of crippling anxiety/negativity, but they choose to make others anxious or miserable instead of trying to help themselves. They’d rather hug a bottle of tequila/whiskey/gin/soda and blame everyone else for being “little bitches” as they spew their hatred. The worst ‘best’ part of their behavior is they ‘forgave’ themselves for acting in such a manner.
Maybe the Jungian Shadow wants us to be vile. Maybe we should be shameless and verbally audacious like these people, but that’s a can of worms to open up another day.
When a loved one tests the crap of your patience, this is a sign to go to church. To meditate at the beach, forest, or in the bathroom. To keep the intrusive thoughts of punching them in the throat locked away.
Friends, you must choose to accept these people and keep them at a distance, even if you live near them. Their salvation is not your concern. Convincing them to take a journey towards self development is too much work, especially if you’re on your own journey. Praying for them is enough. You’re doing them a favor by not humbling them. You’re preventing a rift in the family and possible assault charges if you don’t hit them.
Keep those loved ones at a distance for their benefit or cut them off. They don’t deserve to treat you like crap or to get punched in the throat. Distancing yourself or cutting them off will hurt like hell, but it’ll be worth the peace you’ll receive from it. Let them self destruct or take the first steps towards being a less miserable person.
If they choose to fix themselves, applaud them. You know the pain and struggle that comes with changing your gross ass habits.
You’ll be fine if you do these things.
Thanks for letting me rant.
P.S. to my fellow writers, It helps to write an angry letter to this person. You can send it to them and piss them off or you can toss it. I’m not responsible for the aftermath of you choose to send it.